At some point in almost every gay encounter someone will probably offer his partner a blowjob. This is nothing more or less than sucking cock, not as foreplay, but as a complete sexual act, including orgasm. The gay blowjob is naturally the preferred method for quickies or when there is a danger of discovery, but its attractions are by no means merely functional. As a prelude to anal intercourse, as the same in the duet of soixante-neuf (see Sixty-Nining), a good blowjob (which despite its name does not require blowing) is the ideal technique. Until recently in many European countries, blow jobs were virtually unheard of between men and considered demeaning—they were performed only by women and usually only prostitutes. In the older and non-Judeo-Christian cultures of the East and in societies of Asia, Africa, and South America, blowjobs are acceptable for everyone regardless of gender. Cleopatra of Egypt, for instance, is reputed to have sucked off one hundred Roman noblemen in Rome in one night, and a thousand Roman soldiers back home, but this is probably exaggerated. It’s difficult to say how it happened, exactly, but the United States has become the blowjob capital of the world: Men from all over the world vacation here, often traveling across the country to experience the superb technical prowess of American cocksuckers. The gay blowjob is also the preferred and sometimes the only method of sexual contact of some men. Guys otherwise indifferent and even hostile to gay sex will, on occasion and in the right mood, eagerly look for or at least accept a blowjob from a gay man.
A good blowjob should be a pleasure rather than a task. And it can be pleasurable for the one sucking as well as for the one being sucked. Few who have experienced the subtle yet complete control of another’s body and pleasure through his cock, and the thrill of carefully gliding that cock and that man to sexual fulfillment, consider the experience “demeaning”—or “passive.”