Gay bareback fucking without a condom – is the single most dangerous gay sex contacts there is (see Dangerous Sex). As a method of sexual gratification, it’s as old as recorded history. Until the arrival of AIDS, gay men never used condoms when fucking. In fact, pulling out before you came was considered rude. Until the mid-1980s, condoms were deemed kinky, a sex toy among gay men (see Condoms). The AIDS epidemic caused a change in our way of having sex. As of December 2000, 775,000 people in the United States had been diagnosed with AIDS (the figure for HIV disease is much higher). One-half million have died (see HIV Disease). The worldwide statistics are even more alarming. Since we know so much about the transmission of the virus, fucking someone without a condom is equivalent to two men playing Russian roulette with each other. Younger men seem to be more attracted to barebacking. Perhaps these risk-taking men haven’t watched the slow death of lovers and friends after such gay sex contacts. For them, AIDS is history, like their learning about the Vietnam War. It’s simply not in their experience, as it is for an older generation of gay men. That’s too bad, because it’s a statistical certainty that some of them are going to pay a price — the diagnosis of HIV disease. It would be a mistake, however, to look at barebacking only from a moral perspective. Recent research informs us that emotional problems influence a gay man’s sexual behavior, including his contribution in transmitting the HIV. Depression is the main culprit. Gay men who are depressed, including both acute and chronic depression, are far more likely to participate in unsafe sex (see Depression; Safe Sex). Men with impulsive personalities, especially excitement seekers, are another category of psychologically impaired gay men. They generally describe themselves as “spontaneous,” a claim that is untrue. A man who is spontaneous can make voluntary choices about his behavior; an impulsive man cannot. Both depression and impulsiveness can be effectively treated by both medication and psychotherapy. If you have a friend who is endangering his life by barebacking, ask yourself whether psychological problems might be the cause of these gay sex contacts. continue reading…